Monday 9th May 2016
For the last 8 months, I have been completely out of control.
I don't mean that in the raging alcoholic, heroin addict kind of way, but the sense that you cannot effect the changes in your life, and the feeling that your mind is seperate from your actions and what happens to you.
I moved to Edinburgh in September 2015 to come and study here at one of the best universities in the country. I was incredibly surprised to be given a place here, but spent the entire summer incredibly excited and enthusiastic for the next three years of my life. However, this didn't last long. I moved into my halls and the first few weeks, they were scary and weird and I missed home a bit but, most importantly, I was having fun. Soon after this, I went downhill. My work ethic completely spiralled, my course was absolutely confusing to me and I felt completely out of my depth and at a loss with what I should do. I didn't know how to handle this lack of direction or lack of any teaching at all, so I just buried it all at the back of my brain. I made excuses all day and night for everything about it, bottling it all up inside my head, which, I can tell you, breaks down your self-esteem and general mental health completely. I then would have a fun little breakdown every week or so, where I would collapse in tears and berate myself in my head for hours and hours, shouting at myself, until I could gather myself and push all my thoughts and true feelings away again. I hid inside food mostly, youtube videos and tv series, I couldn't even watch many films all the way through, because if I let my mind wander for too long I would think about all the issues I was having, so I couldn't even do that. Reading has always been a great love of mine as well, but that was completely out of the window for the last months as it leaves my mind too empty and wandering to 'bad' thoughts. I stopped caring about what I looked like, stopped shopping for clothes, stopped being excited about anything, stayed in bed as much as possible, over ate and ate horrible things for my body.
This continued over the Christmas break as well, as the short time I was home I pushed the thoughts of university away and concentrated on having a great time with my family and boyfriend. Then, on the last day before I was due to fly back to Edinburgh, I had a breakdown. This time, my mum was there. It was horrible at the time, but now I'm so glad she saw me like that. It showed her what a mess I was, and how much I had been pushing away and hiding all my feelings from myself and everyone else. We had a really long chat about my feelings towards my course and studying at university, it was really hard to be honest with her. I told her I hated myself and hated the course. I said I felt stupid and like I didn't belong there and that I'd conned myself into this university and wasn't supposed to be let in. I said how much time I'd been spending in bed and trying to forget, but most of all I told her how much I had been hurting inside and how I didn't know what to do anymore, I'd lost all focus and all energy. At one point I never thought I'd feel better ever again, and sometimes I still feel like that.
I think, in part, responsibility was a big factor, as I didn't take any for what I was doing or thinking or feeling. Another part was the missing home/moving away/making friends etc. which is a big thing at university. However, I was prepared for this as I heard many stories and had tips from lots of friends and family that had done it before, and I have always considered myself a really out going and confident person and felt strong in my ability to manage this. However, this was just another thing on top of all the stress I already was feeling from my course.
I did contemplate dropping out of university altogether and moving back home, but I knew that wasn't what I wanted to do. I also thought about changing courses at university, but couldn't find anything that interested me. I'm really glad I stayed and didn't do anything rash. Yeah, my course is pretty bad in terms of my expectations verses reality, but I think I need to seriously manage those expectations. I was very lucky to be able to go to a decent college with good teaching and facilities, and, although you expect it from the money you're paying and the reputation of the university, it doesn't always equal out.
I'm determined to make next year much much better than this one, attack it and achieve as much as I can. Although I think this has been one of the most lonely and sad parts of my life so far, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
- From a much clearer me x
Monday 9 May 2016
Tuesday 19 August 2014
Somersault Festival 2014.
When: July 17th-21st
Where: Castle Hill Estate, Devon
Website: somersaultfestival.com
I went to Somersault festival with some
trepidation as to what it would be like as it was the first time ever that it
had been on, and I thought that it would be small and maybe a bit unorganised. However, I could not have been more wrong as it was a smooth running festival, with
a huge site in the most beautiful location in Devon.
Somersault itself comes from the same
stable as other UK festivals like Wilderness and The Great Escape. Somersault
was more of family-orientated festival, where there were opportunities to go
off site to the beach, and to do activities such as kayaking and surfing.
However, there were also many activities and happening things on-site such as a
rapping competition in the Variety Tent, holistic healing, yoga and massages in
the Wild Wellbeing Centre and lots of crafts and games in the kids area.
As for the musical acts, highlights were
Nick Mulvey’s brilliant set on Saturday as well as the famous Jack Johnson,
who, while being brilliant and bringing a huge crowd, did have an extremely
long set of over 2 hours, which got a bit tedious after a while. Half Moon Run
also attracted a big crowd with their folk/indie style pop on Sunday followed
by the haunting Ben Howard who had the group of boys near me all crying as they
sung their hearts out! Jack Wills were there with their own acoustic tent where
I particularly enjoyed the lovely Rae Morris in the afternoon.
The food on offer was vast and looked
beautiful with two areas full of hundreds of stands such as a stall selling
smoothies made by bike-power and a café that put garlic in everything.
Kopparberg cider had their own bar, selling delicious chilled strawberry and lime cider at £5 a pint. As for other alcohol, there were 4 Somersault Bars stationed around the site with fairly reasonable prices (cheaper than Glastonbury anyway).
I got a free ticket as I worked with Green
Stewards at the festival. This was an excellent experience as we got our own
camping area away from the main areas, and only had to do three 6.5 hr shifts
the whole weekend. Whilst working most festival-goers were understanding if I had to prevent them going into an area etc. and very chatty so the time flew
by. I was lucky as I got shifts that usually didn't interfere with the main musical acts I wanted to see, but even if I wasn't, there was still plenty going on such as the Chai Wallah tent which had some brilliant DJ's on after 10 o'clock.
Overall I thoroughly enjoyed the festival
and am definitely going to attend next year, hopefully stewarding again. The
atmosphere was very relaxed and friendly, with plenty of security and nightlife
to keep everyone going!
Wednesday 23 July 2014
My ten holiday books
So I'm going on holiday next week for a fortnight. I always run out of things to read halfway through so this time I'm taking ten... I don't think that's too excessive....
1. Regeneration - Pat Barker
2. The Blind Assassin - Margaret Atwood
3. Sweet Tooth - Ian McEwan
4. Looking for Alaska - John Green
5. Notes on a Scandal - Zoe Heller
6. Scotland Yard - Sir Harold Scott
7. Gone Girl - Gillian Flynn
8. A Game of Thrones - George R. R. Martin
9. Call the Midwife - Jennifer Worth
10. How to Build a Girl - Caitlin Moran
Monday 14 July 2014
7 ways to revamp your bedroom
1. Lets start with the furniture. I love to move everything around in my room, I always change my desk and bed around for a different outlook and I’ve done this so many times. Your room often needs a refresher, especially if you spend a lot of time in your room. With a little shifting around, voila, I magically become an interior designer. If you think your bed would look better in the other corner or you think your desk should stick out from the wall, then try it! You can always change it back. If you don't fancy lugging heavy desks around at first, you can always grab a piece of paper, draw the shape of your room and try out the furniture in different places before you move them.
2.
Decorate your walls. I found this cute red Oxford
canvas in a charity shop, I've used maps, postcards as well as birthday cards to make my plain white walls more interesting and personal. I also added some Cath Kidston style bunting that I got for my birthday-you
could also buy some funky material, download a pattern from a website and make
your own. Another common decoration is fairy lights. These are very pretty, give a cosy atmosphere and
aren’t very expensive-I bought these for 6.99 from amazon.
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Sunday 13 July 2014
A short interview with my brother re: home education!
Harry is 20, and has just finished his 2nd
year of a computer science degree at Nottingham University.
Do
you feel that home education has given you an advantage over your peers?
The individuality that I have gained from
being home educated has given me an advantage, and I feel that it has opened up
my creativity as well. I think it has given me a definite employability status,
as it is something different that employers tend to pick up on.
You
only did 6 GCSE’s-was this a problem when you entered college?
To undertake my 4 A Levels I only needed 5
GCSE’s that included maths and English, so the college had no qualms in taking
me on. I found it slightly ridiculous when I talked to the friends I made at
college about the mountains of GCSE’s they had, some 13 or 14, as only had less
than half that they had! However, at college it didn’t matter as most people
there were in college because they chose to be, and pretty much everyone was
interested and motivated within the lessons as much as I was, so it made no
difference.
How
did you feel entering college aged 16?
I really enjoyed the whole experience of my
A Levels. It was new and interesting, and I really liked taking the subjects I
was really interested in, to a new level as my studies were more in-depth. As
for the social side, I liked meeting the new people and making more friends,
but I still enjoyed, and do now, keeping in touch with and meeting up with my
home-ed friends that I’ve known for years. The only problem was that I had to
get up early for college! Overall I had a very positive experience, and I’m
glad I entered college to complete my A Levels.
If
you could pass on something to others about home education, what would it be?
The great thing about home ed is that you
can learn as many different things as you like, which helps you to work out
what you’re really interested in. It made me realize what I wanted to do in
life, that I wanted to explore graphic design and computing, and home-ed helped
me discover and explore it a lot at a younger age than I would probably have
in school. It also inspired my creativity as we did a lot of drawing and painting throughout my childhood, which I think has definitely influenced the way I think and look at the world today.
Saturday 12 July 2014
Ballet.
I have just finished my Grade 8 ballet exam. It feels like the end of an era, entering a world where I don't go to ballet class every week. It's going to be strange, and it is already very sad. The tears afterwards were not because the exam went badly, on the contrary, but because we will dearly miss the dancing, the laughing and the friendship. We will miss our lovely teacher, the principle, who continues to put her heart and soul into teaching after all this time. And we will miss out other teacher who has had years of doing our hair and preparing us for exams as well as teaching and consoling us when we feel down. I will also miss the pianist who always makes sure that we are on the beat and ready to begin. He shed a few tears himself today, as he said goodbye to us all. I will also miss the ballet studio that has the two frustrating pillars in the middle of the room that you have to space yourself around, and the old photographs of performances that hang on the whitewashed walls.
I will miss the gratification of trying hard and completing the grades. When you complete a ballet exam each year, no matter what the result, you always feel a great sense of pride and achievement that you got yourself to this level, and that you have performed for a London examiner and proved to her that you can do it. Thirteen years down the line and I can't imagine my life without it, but I'm sure I'll get used to it...eventually.
Friday 11 July 2014
'Omg, you were home-educated???'
Why?
Some people choose home-ed because of
religious reasons, however my parents felt like primary school was simply there
for childcare and they wanted us to grow more freely, apart from the rules and
levels that you have to climb in school.
Isn’t
it against the law??
In the UK it is perfectly fine to educate
your child at home, as long as the education they receive is suitable to their
ability and aptitude.
But
don’t you have to be a teacher?
Nope, you don’t have to have any formal
education whatsoever to instruct your child at home.
Do you have any friends?!
Contrary to popular belief, I have a social
life! Growing up, I had friends at my local home-ed group as well as from my
dance classes and friends living in my village. Unlike the image that some
people have, just because I’m home-ed it doesn’t mean I wear long, flowery
skirts and sit at home crocheting all day…
But
you’ll miss out on school’s valuable life lessons!
Valuable life lessons? I feel like I’ve
learnt many more things to prepare me for the adult world from my family and
friends at home than I would have at school. I know how to have a conversation,
prepare for a job interview and bake a loaf of bread… what more could I ask
for?
Can
you wear your pjs all day??
Strangely, this is one of the questions I
get asked the most, and the answer is, you can if you like, but you have to
remember that we actually want to get up and learn because it’s fun. I can
imagine if you were in school then came straight out you’d want to work in your
pyjamas bcause it would be a novelty, but in reality, we prefer to get dressed
and ready for the day.
What’s
a typical day like??
That’s exactly it-there isn’t a typical day
for a home-edder. We had things like an art class to go to or a group meet up
to attend, but the point is that nothing is ‘compulsory’ like it is in school.
We never really had a specific time to start or end our working time, just as
much or as little as we felt like doing that day. One day I wanted to do a huge
essay on Jane Austen’s history, so that’s what I did for about a week. I
remember this one time when my 3 siblings and I took a week to prepare a whole
Egyptian burial, my sister made an elaborate gold mask for the mummy, we all
made clay models to be the servants in the next life as well as the canopic jars. My brothers painted an old
cardboard box to bury me in after I was wrapped in toilet paper as the mummy!
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